There has never been anything, arguably, in recent decades that has changed life and the way that we live, mingle and meet people, like the COVID pandemic. Although terribly isolating, there are both good and bad that has come from social distancing. If you are single and trying to find a silver lining to putting dating on hold, I’m here to help. Being single during COVID comes with many things that married people probably envy about you!
Being Single During COVID
If there were a worst time to find yourself solo and wanting to be in a couplehood, I can’t imagine it. COVID has taken social distancing to new heights. Smiles and flirting are off limits because you can’t see what is behind the mask.
And although we all go into dating with masks on, these are literal masks that hide not just what is inside, and your crazy, but your exterior appearance. So what is someone who is single during COVID supposed to do – buck the system and screw the social distancing or learn to be comfortable being alone until the pandemic is behind us and safe.
Social Distancing’s Getting Old!
At first, even those who were single were a bit excited about life shutting down and everyone having some time to decompress. But after the Netflix binging was over, and you caught up on your Umbrella Academy, then there really was a whole lot of quiet to overcome. After a while it can start to really seem as if single hood is going to be a permanent situation for you.
But, fear not, a pandemic can only go on for so long (truly the definition of a pandemic), and life will return to normal – or at least a new and more social normal. In the meantime, it is important for you to use the remaining time to find the silver lining in the current situation and get the most of the time before it is back to the rat race, speed dating, and bar scene.
1. Feeling Lonely is a State of Mind
I am not going to lie, feeling lonely can be very difficult day after day. But I want you to take heart, you can have a mate and still feel lonely, which can be even more difficult. Just because you don’t have a romantic relationship in your life, you are by no means alone!
Not being able to play with friends, meet for a drink, or even catch lunch once in a while might be wearing on you – but this is a time for you to put the effort forth by using the internet, apps and mobile devices to reconnect if not physically, at least emotionally. Even though you can’t head out the door, use the door presented through technology to spend time with the people who pick you up and make you feel less lonely.
2. Taking Time for Yourself
Most people have taken the COVID era to do all the things that they didn’t have time for before. Doing projects around the house, yard work catch up, and even doing taxes might have a great distraction. But have you taken the time to focus on you – the real inner you?
Before you have to head back to dating and life as we knew it; take time to better yourself to be #bebetterbebella! There are likely things about yourself that you want to work on emotionally, physically, or even intelligently. Dive into finding a better self. That way, when you can unleash – you will be on fleck to show off all the new improvements and self awareness tweaks you have made.
3. Wishing Dating was Still a Thing
There are some that really enjoy the dating game, or at least having the option. Instead of feeing like you are missing out, look at it as a way to alter the way that you get to know a potential mate. If dating hasn’t been so successful before, try new things. Maybe COVID will be a blessing for your dating life in disguise. It will allow you to find different ways to make a love connection – how exciting!
4. You Aren’t Fighting in Close Quarters
There are all sorts of wonderful things about being single, but one that really stands out during COVID is that you aren’t stuck in close quarters with the same person day after day. The real statistics say that more couples are making their way to divorce court – when it opens back up, then ever before in history.
You might feel alone, but being by yourself means that you aren’t walking on egg shells the way that many couples are. And you also aren’t shredding away at a relationship that wasn’t doing so well before the pandemic hit. So as hard as it might seem being single during COVID, it is preferable to living with a failing marriage during COVID.
5. Online Dating Takes on a Whole new High!
The good news is that technology is still up and running. If you weren’t all that keen about finding someone on Bumble, Tinder and Plenty of Fish before you might want to rethink your options. Likely a lot of singles are flocking to the dating sites out of sheer limited options. That means you might find the same person you would have found at the gym now, online. You never know, COVID might have been set off by Cupid? Only the fates know what this is all about – so be positive!
6. Over Thinkers – This is Your Time!
For people like me who tend to overthink their tooth paste preference, being alone in your own head might be the worst scenario ever. But along with self-awareness inflection, now might be a time to figure out what drives your anxiety and try to find more and better ways to deal with it. Now is a perfect time for you to find new and more productive ways to reduce stress. Try putting some exercise into your day. Getting outside is not only good for your body, but also your mind. So hit the trails and get some fresh air.
Being Single During COVID…
I am married, so what do I know about being single during COVID? I only know all the things that I can dream of, solitude, no fighting in close quarters and time to focus solely and purely on you and finding your #bestlife.
The pandemic will end – this I know, nothing can last forever. So instead of missing the ways that things used to be or feeling like you are missing out at all, see this time as a way to find a better version of you, while also accepting your current version spare a few tweaks. The point is to always find the silver lining and keep it positive to #bebetterbebella – so take this time by the reins and grab all the goodness you can before you miss the days of solitude.
